We use the word responsibility all time when thinking of all the things we have to do, work, kids, house and so on but we never think about it in the sense of the word as it was originally derived.
"Response Ability" our ability to choose our responses is a slightly different way to think about it.
In every situation we can train ourselves to choose our own response, we can choose to be meek or we can choose to be confident.
Now I know this is really easy to say and far more difficult to do, but even if we are aware of our choice we don't have to be a hostage to fortune any more.
It takes time, as ever!
Cheers
Sunday, 21 August 2016
Three Post in one day
I know I made it my mission to post about confidence every day but I had a few things on, all positive, so here I am posting three times today. all on separate points though.
Yesterday I completed a 65 mile cycle event known as a sportive in Ayrshire here in Scotland. Now summer in Scotland is not summer in Spain or even England. We faced 50mph winds and torrential rain and at one point when fixing a puncture I longed for a hot shower and a warm house. However, we completed it and now it has lifted my feeling of well being hugely.
I cycled with an old school friend who I hadn't actually seen since 1988 so it was a bit of a strange occasion and obviously beforehand I was slightly nervous. But is went really well and we got on great. Maybe adversoty does bring people together.
Cheers
Yesterday I completed a 65 mile cycle event known as a sportive in Ayrshire here in Scotland. Now summer in Scotland is not summer in Spain or even England. We faced 50mph winds and torrential rain and at one point when fixing a puncture I longed for a hot shower and a warm house. However, we completed it and now it has lifted my feeling of well being hugely.
I cycled with an old school friend who I hadn't actually seen since 1988 so it was a bit of a strange occasion and obviously beforehand I was slightly nervous. But is went really well and we got on great. Maybe adversoty does bring people together.
Cheers
Thursday, 18 August 2016
Don't Procrastinate
The third lesson from Neuroscience about being as positive as possible is to try to make decisions quickly
I know this is easier said than done when we are not feeling good about ourselves.
It is easy to have doubts and imagine all the possibilities that could go wrong.
And in the end get into fudge and never make a decision.
However, I have tried to improve my decision making in recent years and the most liberating point for me is that; there is no such thing as the perfect decision. Modern life is so complex with so many possible scenarios that we can only ever go for a good solution rather than a perfect one.
So forget about making the perfect decision and just think if it seems to work I'll go for that!
I know this is easier said than done when we are not feeling good about ourselves.
It is easy to have doubts and imagine all the possibilities that could go wrong.
And in the end get into fudge and never make a decision.
However, I have tried to improve my decision making in recent years and the most liberating point for me is that; there is no such thing as the perfect decision. Modern life is so complex with so many possible scenarios that we can only ever go for a good solution rather than a perfect one.
So forget about making the perfect decision and just think if it seems to work I'll go for that!
Wednesday, 17 August 2016
Some Early Success
When I started this Confidence Workshop project I really had no idea what impact it would have on my life. It is an idea stolen from a book called the happiness project where the author deliberately worked on her happiness for year.
My though was could this be replicated for Confidence, if I were to actively write about and think about my own self belief could it improve.
Well, today for the first time I actually felt different in a good way, more positive and confident.
Today was the first day back for the pupils at our school and I have to say I felt better more confident, more self assured, which is really pleasing.
More of the same please.
Cheers
My though was could this be replicated for Confidence, if I were to actively write about and think about my own self belief could it improve.
Well, today for the first time I actually felt different in a good way, more positive and confident.
Today was the first day back for the pupils at our school and I have to say I felt better more confident, more self assured, which is really pleasing.
More of the same please.
Cheers
Tuesday, 16 August 2016
More from Neuroscience
Point No 2. from the scientific research is
Label any negative emotions. Giving them a name ensures they are less threatening.
This is a really interesting one, does allocating a label or a name to negative emotions really dampen their impact?
Since reading about this research a few months ago I have been trying to implement it any time possible. Now it is not possible all the time as we have so many emotions and such busy lives.
However, when I have remembered and put a label to something like
That was a concern about my son at school or
That was a worry about work tomorrow or
That sickening piece of worry was about the prospect of Donald Trump winning
it does tend to have a neutralising impact as the brain is saying, it's ok I've dealt with that, now lets move on.
It is interesting stuff and I will keep my readers updated on how it goes.
Cheers
Label any negative emotions. Giving them a name ensures they are less threatening.
This is a really interesting one, does allocating a label or a name to negative emotions really dampen their impact?
Since reading about this research a few months ago I have been trying to implement it any time possible. Now it is not possible all the time as we have so many emotions and such busy lives.
However, when I have remembered and put a label to something like
That was a concern about my son at school or
That was a worry about work tomorrow or
That sickening piece of worry was about the prospect of Donald Trump winning
it does tend to have a neutralising impact as the brain is saying, it's ok I've dealt with that, now lets move on.
It is interesting stuff and I will keep my readers updated on how it goes.
Cheers
Monday, 15 August 2016
Builing Confidence by Stopping the Drink
I noticed this story on the bbc website, it is not an uncommon theme where someone gives up a harmful addiction, drink in this case, and then goes on to enjoy success in their life.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-36886691
Not only that but people who give up drinking tend to then go on and enjoy their life a lot more as there are far fewer regrets and hangovers which are obviously harmful to self esteem. That has been my experience anyway after I gave up drinking over 2 years ago.
I really enjoy reading stories like this as they are a great source of inspiration.
Cheers
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-36886691
Not only that but people who give up drinking tend to then go on and enjoy their life a lot more as there are far fewer regrets and hangovers which are obviously harmful to self esteem. That has been my experience anyway after I gave up drinking over 2 years ago.
I really enjoy reading stories like this as they are a great source of inspiration.
Cheers
Sunday, 14 August 2016
What am I grateful for?
Getting back to my post yesterday on the recommendations made by Neuroscientists about how to feel better about yourself and as a result more confident.
I think we can all find something to be grateful for; my family, friends, health, job and home all spring to mind very quickly.
However, the good news about this research is that even if we don't find anything to be grateful for, and surely everyone can find something, we still benefit as it is the process of looking that helps boosts the well being chemicals in the brain.
Since reading about the research I have tried every day, when I remember, to think of everything I am grateful for and it seems to work so far. It certainly banishes some of the petty and irrelevant complaints I often have as it puts everything into perspective and makes me appreciate what is actually important in life.
Cheers
I think we can all find something to be grateful for; my family, friends, health, job and home all spring to mind very quickly.
However, the good news about this research is that even if we don't find anything to be grateful for, and surely everyone can find something, we still benefit as it is the process of looking that helps boosts the well being chemicals in the brain.
Since reading about the research I have tried every day, when I remember, to think of everything I am grateful for and it seems to work so far. It certainly banishes some of the petty and irrelevant complaints I often have as it puts everything into perspective and makes me appreciate what is actually important in life.
Cheers
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